I started watching MTV’s newest show “Are You The One?” and felt inspired to share some of my dating tips with you. If you haven’t heard of this new show on MTV then you can watch the trailer here. For those of you who have been reading my blog since the beginning then you have followed me along through all of my online dating horror stories over the years. I swear I must have been on at least 75 first dates over the last two years, or at least it felt like that. Online dating is the most common way to meet people these days but it can be pretty horrific and demoralizing. I always seemed to meet the flakey guys who only wanted one thing. I wouldn’t consider myself to be a dating expert but I was single long enough to know the in and outs of the online dating world. Do you have any valuable online dating tips?
- Always arrive 15 mins early so you have time to freshen up in the bathroom and scope the scene.
- Keep the first date short and sweet, this way it is more like a meet and greet instead of an official date.
- Don’t meet at a pub or restaurant, stick to coffee shops or go for a stroll. It is too hard to escape when you are stuck waiting for the bill at a pub or restaurant.
- Make sure you have an escape plan just in case you want out and fast.
- Wear comfortable shoes and clothing, this way you can go for a walk instead of sitting face to face like a job interview. It always looks bad when you are constantly fidgeting with your wardrobe.
- Try to relax instead of drilling him with a hundred questions.
- Do not bring up marriage or that you want to have kids on the first date, this will make him run for the hills.
- Don’t talk about your ex and why you broke up. Everyone has had past relationships but it doesn’t mean we want to hear about it all night.
- Relax and try to have fun! Always make good eye contact and make sure your body language isn’t too closed off (unless you are completely grossed out and want out ASAP).
- Do not, I repeat do not text him after the first date or the next day. Wait for him to text you, guys like the chase.
If you haven’t watched the first episode then you can catch up and watch it here. This show is super fun to watch because you can play along and guess which contestants are each others perfect match. At the end of the season one lucky winner will win a trip for two to Hawaii! Make sure to play along with me throughout the season.
Michelle
October 5, 2015 at 5:12 amGreat tips! Some of the best dates I ever had were with men who preferred to meet at coffee shops and I totally agree to wear something you’re 100% comfortable in!
xo – Michelle
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 9:46 pmThanks Michelle, glad you agree
xo
Candice Petersen
October 5, 2015 at 5:27 amThat jacket looks so good on you and super cosy
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 9:49 pmThanks Candice
xo
Brittany S
October 5, 2015 at 6:19 amLoved reading this! I have had some pretty horrific first dates as well and these all apply! Nothing makes me want to run for the hills like when a guy I just met starts crying about how much he misses his ex and how he lost 15 pounds (true story) or when they start drilling you about marriage!
Brittany,
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 9:50 pmThanks Brittany, omg jeez I don’t think I had a guy drill me with that
xo
Danielle
October 5, 2015 at 7:48 amLove this! I am married now but I think these are perfect for girls dating! The last one is so true!
Danielle
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 9:52 pmThanks Danielle
xo
Tash Collier
October 5, 2015 at 8:05 amGreat tips! I love the coat 🙂
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 9:54 pmThanks Tash
xo
Denise
October 5, 2015 at 8:45 amI love black coats, stripes and dots and I loved your outfit, as usual! You look very pretty, always beautiful! I loved your dating tips! A friend of mine has horrific stories from online dating as well, and although I tell her “be careful, the guy is maybe lying”, she never listens to me 🙂 She believes in everything and then always gets disappointed. Number 3 is an excellent tip! I would like to forward the post to my friend, but she would feel offended! She is collecting awful stories for years! Hope one day it changes!
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 9:57 pmAwe thanks Denise, I am sorry to hear about your friend. I ended up learning all of this the hard way
xo
Missy May
October 5, 2015 at 9:25 amFirst dates can be nerve racking, so thanks for the tips. I will sure check this show out.
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 9:59 pmThanks Missy, I know dating is that worst
xo
Nina
October 5, 2015 at 10:55 amGreat tips ! Love this outfit !
Nina
xox
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:04 pmThanks Nina
xo
Stripes n Vibes
October 5, 2015 at 12:39 pmLooking great Laura and thanks for sharing great tips)
Tanya
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:06 pmThanks Tanya
xo
Anouk
October 5, 2015 at 1:30 pmLike the advice! Number 10 is the most important tip out of all 🙂
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:09 pmThanks Anouk
xo
Annie Montgomery
October 5, 2015 at 1:39 pmlove this outfit!! i spy a darling elliott luck 😉
Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:10 pmThanks Annie
xo
racheldinh
October 5, 2015 at 1:41 pmLove the coat and great tips, number 6 is a must.
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:12 pmThanks Rachel
xo
Monika
October 5, 2015 at 2:09 pmOh I forgot about that show. I watched the first season and then fell off. It was a fun watch. As for online dating – the best part of it for me was dishing about my dates to my friends. We’d swap horror stories and compare notes. Looking back on It now it brings back so many memories and was a lot of fun.
-M
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:14 pmThanks Monika, well at least you have fond memories of dating
xo
Jude & Yara
October 5, 2015 at 2:43 pmLove your look & haha great tips!
Stay gold,
Selftimers
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:19 pmThanks Jude
xo
Radi
October 5, 2015 at 5:26 pmGreat tips, I’ll keep them in mind!
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:23 pmThanks Radi
xo
Kelsey & Kenecha
October 5, 2015 at 6:49 pmYou look great, as always! Love your photos.
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:30 pmThanks Kelsey and Kenecha
xo
Mlle Coconath
October 5, 2015 at 7:11 pmLove love love the coat!
xx
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:33 pmThanks Mlle
xo
Sybil
October 5, 2015 at 8:21 pmwhat a nice little post!! i think your tips are useful and proper! thanks for sharing 😀
Have a great week!
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:49 pmThanks for stopping by Sybil
xo
kelsey bang
October 5, 2015 at 10:23 pmcute tips! I love your polka dot pants!
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 5, 2015 at 10:52 pmThanks Kelsey
xo
Milly Onyaye
October 5, 2015 at 11:26 pmVery helpful tips! Will surely share this with some of my friends who are still dating! I love the coat! It screams Fall!!
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:01 pmThanks Milly
xo
Amber of A Mused Blog
October 5, 2015 at 11:29 pmFantastic tips – esp about keeping the first date short and sweet. Also, that 4th shot in this post is EVERYTHING I feel like it’s a film still from a movie about a young woman who left home and is finding her way in city that’s kind of off the grid, and all in the best way possible. It’s beautiful.
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:05 pmThanks for the lovely compliment Amber, I never looked at the 4th photo that way but now I can see it
xo
Katherine Annika Cutar
October 6, 2015 at 12:24 amIn love with this look so much!
x, Kat of Nested Thoughts
Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:07 pmThanks Kat
xo
Keen On Beauty
October 6, 2015 at 1:58 amGreat dating tips! I liked the one about an escape plan :))) You look gorgeous on the photos xx
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:09 pmThanks so much, I think its a pretty good tip haha
xo
Maria Luisa
October 6, 2015 at 1:59 amlook bello
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:11 pmThanks Maria
xo
Floortje van Cooten
October 6, 2015 at 2:43 amGreat look! Love the pants
XX
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:13 pmThanks Floortje
xo
Kati
October 6, 2015 at 3:07 amLiking those photos! They, together with the tips, could be from a woman’s magazine! Very professional and well-done.
-Kati
Kati
October 6, 2015 at 3:08 amhttps://almoststylish.blogspot.de/
Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:15 pmThanks Kati
xo
Kamila Tarnawska
October 6, 2015 at 5:35 amI want your coat !! it looks so warm and cosy 🙂
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Laura Jane Atelier
October 6, 2015 at 10:28 pmThanks Kamila
xo
clara mcmillan
October 7, 2015 at 1:17 amLove the coat!
God bless,
Xo, Claire
https://www.littlemissfashionqueen.com
Tiffany
October 10, 2015 at 1:34 amI love the coat! https://www.chanelfr.com